Friday, September 25, 2015

"Conscious Uncoupling" after 5 Years

When I first read the line "conscious uncoupling" from some celebrity news, I took the words literally and questioned myself do some couples who undergo divorce were unconscious when they did it?  Then I searched for the real meaning so as not to appear blank.  As one blog says it is the A "conscious uncoupling is the ability to understand that every irritation and argument [within a marriage] was a signal to look inside ourselves and identify a negative internal object that needed healing," they write. "From this perspective, there are no bad guys, just two people," they say, expanding on the blame-free, "it's about people as individuals, not just the relationship" theory......
Maybe its not just between two people.  Maybe this could also apply to a person and a place?  However it will not work out very well as the city might not give me the necessary feedback I need. 

But, anyway, I'll just think about it the same way.  Over the span of 5 years, Abu Dhabi and I have that yo-yo relationship.  I love how Abu Dhabi have blossomed into a metropolis of culture and innovation.  It easily adapted to the fast pace of modernization but still cling to what is true to their culture.  It is just plain beautiful.  Abu Dhabi has taught me a lot of things.  For that I will be forever thankful. 

Leaving a place after taking root for almost 5 years is difficult.  Not just physically but emotionally.  The physical part takes a lot of stressful time.  If you have rented your own place like a studio type accommodation, you have to get rid of everything that you can't take with you to another country.  Or you can send it to your home country so somebody else can use it.  Aside from selling and giving away your stuff you have to cut all your ties in that country.  From utility bills, credit cards, bank accounts and sadly friendships.  Not that you will be rid of those people once you leave the country.  But no more impromptu dates. 

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I was not able to finish this entry because I was already swamped with so many things to do.  Now here I am in my jammies 12:15 pm and still thinking if I could still say I love rainy days.  I am cooped up here in our new home in Australia still trying to adjust with the cool weather.  It has been raining for two days.  I love rain.  Always have been especially when I was in Abu Dhabi when it rarely visits the city.  Now, here in Sydney, rain often comes uninvited and unexpected.  I don't know how long I could say I love rainy days.

From time to time, I still think about my life in Abu Dhabi.  I miss some of the things we used to do there.  The places we visit, the food we stuffed ourselves and the people we see from time to time.  It was a good 5 years.  Abu Dhabi was home for me and my husband, but some things just have to change.  Change can sometimes be very terrifying especially if you don't know what's happening next.  But it can also bring you to something better. 

Abu Dhabi is a good country to earn a living, save up some money or send money to your love ones.  But it has an ending.  You don't see yourself staying there for the rest of your life because you just can't.  I mean, the reason you can stay and work there is because of your working visa or your husband's working visa.  If one of you or you don't have that kind of visa you can't live there.  They don't grant permanent residency or citizenship.  Please don't take this the wrong way.  This is just my opinion and this is one of the reasons why we moved.  We can continue living and working there but until when?  Its one of those issues every couple must face in making a decision for the family.

No need to continue this torturous entry.  I think Its too confusing.  I'm lucky if somebody reads this.  But I promise though, the next entries will be my first had experiences in my life here in our new home Australia.